Ashley James poses naked as she claims 'being single made her feel like a failure'

Posted by Aldo Pusey on Tuesday, May 21, 2024

Ashley James has shared a naked snap and a series of bikini pictures on her Instagram on Wednesday as she fondly remembered her travelling experiences. 

And in a lengthy post, the 33-year-old wrote about how her memories have enriched her life, admitted to feeling like a failure when single and said she wants to see the world. 

Her latest post comes after Ashley said that being in self-isolation amid the coronavirus pandemic was making rearing up her body confidence again. 

Thoughts: Ashley James shared a throwback naked snap as she claimed 'being single made her feel like a failure' after admitting isolation has made her body dysmorphia return

Thoughts: Ashley James shared a throwback naked snap as she claimed 'being single made her feel like a failure' after admitting isolation has made her body dysmorphia return

Beautiful: She shared a series of stunning bikini throwback snaps as she shared how important travelling has been to her

Beautiful: She shared a series of stunning bikini throwback snaps as she shared how important travelling has been to her 

She wrote: I've been having really vivid dreams about solo travelling. I know a lot of people have been having crazy dreams, but I wake up still being able to taste the sea, see the stars, and feeling the sense of freedom I get exploring new parts of the world.

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'It's making me hungry to travel, as soon as we're able to, whenever that may be.

'Solo travelling not only changed my life, but also my perspective on so many things. When I set off on my own round Mexico for 6 weeks, I was terrified, but I knew I needed to get away.

She wrote: I've been having really vivid dreams about solo travelling. I know a lot of people have been having crazy dreams, but I wake up still being able to taste the sea, see the stars, and feeling the sense of freedom I get exploring new parts of the world'

She wrote: I've been having really vivid dreams about solo travelling. I know a lot of people have been having crazy dreams, but I wake up still being able to taste the sea, see the stars, and feeling the sense of freedom I get exploring new parts of the world'

Adding: 'It's making me hungry to travel, as soon as we're able to, whenever that may be'

Adding: 'It's making me hungry to travel, as soon as we're able to, whenever that may be'

'I was in a rut, and I was repeating the same mistakes and continuously having my heart broken. I saw being single as a failure, and lamented what was wrong with me. 

'Travelling made me realise that you don't need anyone to be happy. True happiness is freedom, seeing new things, eating new food, diving, meeting new people, and having experiences with friends.'

She continuned: 'We put so much energy into the wrong relationships, we forget some of the best ones are already in front of us: friendships. I treat my friends with the same attention and energy as I do my romantic relationship. I want to travel the world and create memories with my friends. I still want to solo travel.'

She continued: 'I was in a rut, and I was repeating the same mistakes and continuously having my heart broken. I saw being single as a failure, and lamented what was wrong with me'

She continued: 'I was in a rut, and I was repeating the same mistakes and continuously having my heart broken. I saw being single as a failure, and lamented what was wrong with me'

Backpacking: Ashley said that the best experiences she has had has been on a shoestring and in hostels

Backpacking: Ashley said that the best experiences she has had has been on a shoestring and in hostels

Ashley also wrote: 'Travel isn't about spending loads of money or staying in fancy hotels. It's where you meet other free spirits. No one cares about who are you, what you've achieved (or not achieved), and it's humbling to be stripped of that.

'When travelling, gossip, toxic friends, false nails, blow drys, and anything else we fill our lives with seems so futile. 

'You'll rarely see my in expensive clothes or with expensive things, because I'd rather look back on life thinking I'd seen the world and experienced as much of it as possible.

A moment of reflection: She said: 'When travelling, gossip, toxic friends, false nails, blow drys, and anything else we fill our lives with seems so futile'

A moment of reflection: She said: 'When travelling, gossip, toxic friends, false nails, blow drys, and anything else we fill our lives with seems so futile'

She concluded: 'I'll remember the places I've seen and food I've tasted, not how many diets I did or how my body looked'

She concluded: 'I'll remember the places I've seen and food I've tasted, not how many diets I did or how my body looked'

'I'll remember the places I've seen and food I've tasted, not how many diets I did or how my body looked.'

'I'll never take the ability to travel again, and I've woke up daydreaming of where I can explore next. I can't wait to see the world. I've travelled round Mexico, Bali, Tanzania... Where can I go next? I like sunsets, jungles, diving, starry nights, beautiful nature...  #travel #wanderlust.' 

Earlier in the week, Ashley admitted her confidence has taken a knock while in quarantine. 

Sharing bikini pictures on Instagram on Sunday, Ashley admitted her 'body dysmorphia has crept back in' as she has had to forego her weekly spray tan.

Posing in her garden, she wrote a lengthy post to explain her feelings. 

'I've felt my body dysmorphia creeping back in': Ashley modelled a pink bikini on Instagram on Sunday as she admitted being stripped of spray tans has affected her self-image

'I've felt my body dysmorphia creeping back in': Ashley modelled a pink bikini on Instagram on Sunday as she admitted being stripped of spray tans has affected her self-image

Getting it off her chest: Ashley shared a very lengthy post to let others know how she is feeling

Getting it off her chest: Ashley shared a very lengthy post to let others know how she is feeling 

She penned: 'Let's talk about body confidence in lockdown. I talk about feeling comfortable in your own skin a lot, but I'm not going to lie, being in lockdown has been testing for me in terms of my own body image and I've felt my body dysmorphia creeping back in...

'"We don't do this anymore", I keep telling myself, as I remind myself that I am more than my body. Sexiness is not defined by the shape of our bodies, it's a state of mind. 

'Our beauty is not defined by how toned or tanned we are. We just have to look around at all the beautiful women we know (or dont know) to see that. We judge ourselves more than others.'

Doing her thing: Ashley posed up a storm to illustrate her point in her back garden

Doing her thing: Ashley posed up a storm to illustrate her point in her back garden 

She continued: 'Being stripped of my weekly spray tans has made me realise that a lot of my confidence depended on feeling tanned. I feel better with a tan. 

'Maybe because I associate it with how positive I feel when I travel, or maybe just because I've grown used to seeing my body that way, or because it's seen as sexy. Either way... Here I am without a tan.

'When my dysmorphia used to creep in, or when I struggled with my body image, I would take the hottest photo I could and post it to social media. I needed that validation. I needed people to 'like' what they saw to make me feel better. 

'And it did, but not deep down. Not really. Ironically, I was a lingerie model during this time, further proof that my lack of self esteem and confidence had nothing to do with how my body looked. 

Wish you were here: Ashley's Instagram account is littered with tanned pictures of herself in various holifay hotspots

Wish you were here: Ashley's Instagram account is littered with tanned pictures of herself in various holifay hotspots 

'If we're feeling bad about our body, we need to work on our minds, not our bodies (although of course exercise is great), because if your happiness is dependent on an aesthetic goal, you'll probably never feel like you've reached it.'

Ashley concluded: 'And the problem with seeking validation from others is that you're putting all your happiness in their hands, which also means they have the power to make you miserable too. 

'The only person whose opinion matters is my own, because if someone felt they had a right to voice a negative opinion about my body, they wouldn't merit a place in my life.

'I wanted to share what's going on in my mind in case anyone relates in some way. And to show both photos, to remind myself and hopefully you all that sexiness and confidence is an attitude. And our bodies are amazing. ❤️'

Happy days: Ashley has also been enjoying the BBQ weather as she safely stayed home over the weekend

Happy days: Ashley has also been enjoying the BBQ weather as she safely stayed home over the weekend 

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